We Do Workshops
Thomas has been teaching college level courses and presenting in small to large conferences for over two decades. He's comfortable with crowds of 10 and crowds of 20,000! Thomas and Lia presented their first relationship workshop together in 2018. Since then, they've taught at many community events, retreats, and conferences.
Explore the sample of workshop & Seminar Topics below. If interested in having Intimacy Alchemy at your next event, reach out via email to:
The Alchemy of Power: The 4 Aspects to Ignite Passion and Cultivate Harmony
Description:
Whether you’re curious about power exchange, an advanced practitioner of authority transfer, or have never thought about dominance and submission in your romantic relationships at all, this class has gems that will change your romantic life.
Dive into Intimacy Alchemy’s unique Relationship Dynamics Model that helps you understand the psychology of power across 4 key aspects.  Gain the context and language to help you better understand your own power dynamic needs and wants, and how to effectively communicate them to a partner. You’ll leave this workshop equipped with the tools for negotiating deeper, more supportive, sexier relationship dynamics.
Who is it for:
Anyone, beginner to advanced, interested in intentional power exchange / authority transfer dynamics
Time Needed:
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(Option 1) 90 minute seminar: Enough for a model overview, and guidance on self work to be done after the seminar Seminar will give students one practice reflection, and Q&A time.
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(Option 2) Two 90 minute workshops:
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Session 1, Understanding My Dynamic Needs/Wants — Explains the model and dives into a practicum to guide students through self discovery, building useful language for communicating one’s own needs/wants.
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Session 2: Negotiating for Intentional Relational Power Dynamics — Builds on the 4 Aspects with communication skills and tools for negotiating a structured, intentional dynamic. Includes practicum.
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Space, Equipment:
- Space: Private, forward row seating or circular
- Equipment: Sound System suitable to voice for the space, Projection / Display panels for slide presentation; headset or lapel preferred; ability to play music from our phone/laptop setlist.
What they will learn:
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The 4 Aspects RPD model for understanding and communicating through the complexities of power exchange.
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How to process one’s affinities for power exchange in different areas of life.
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How to listen to others’ needs/wants in power exchange.
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How to negotiate an intentional power dynamic.
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How they will benefit (take aways):
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Tools for self reflection and greater knowledge of self
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Language for better communication of needs/wants in power dynamics
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How to build a supportive structure in the power dynamics of any relationship, leading to greater peace and fulfillment.
Energetic Alignment for Intimacy
Description:
Experience deeper connection through simple energy alignment practices designed for partners. No esoteric knowledge required—just practical techniques anyone can do. Learn how to cultivate presence together with breath, posture, and intention. Build daily intimacy rituals, and restore peace after conflict. Whether you've been together for years or just met, these tools work. From peaceful afternoons to profound sexual connection, discover partner alignment practices you can use anywhere.
Who is it for:
Romantic partners seeking deeper connection, curious about tantra, breath work, energy work.
Time Needed:
- (1) 60 minute experiential workshop: Brief intro to breath and energy work. Solo practicums on basic techniques followed by coupled practicums.
What they will learn:
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The use of breath and embrace to connect to a partner at the energetic level
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Practices safe for public spaces, and those best done in private
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Practical application in daily rituals for greater connection
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Practical application for restoring peace after an argument
How they will benefit (take aways):
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Practical skills to boost a sense of connection, bonding, oneness with romantic partners
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Deeper connection with the partner(s) you attend the workshop with
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Practical rituals you can establish for daily intimacy
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Language to ask for energetic alignment
Embodied Truth: The Erotic Power of Radical Honesty
Description
Truth, spoken and received in the safe container of “Forward Positive Alchemy,” becomes one of the most potent erotic forces available to us. Real intimacy isn’t about a shared experience, but rather a shared knowing of one another. In this daring yet exquisitely safe container, we learn the principles of radical honesty and transmuting fear, trauma, and triggers into deeper trust and harmony. And quite often, we transmute our hopeful dreams into a wondrous shared reality.
Who Is It For
Self-aware individuals, couples, or polycules 30–50 who are ready to dissolve the subtle masks that dim desire, and who understand that emotional safety is the bedrock of true erotic freedom.
Time, Space, Equipment
- Duration: 90 minutes
- Space: Private, carpeted or cushioned room; dimmable warm lighting; circle seating preferred with flexibility for breaking out into small groups/huddles.
- Equipment: Cushions, mats, tissues. Encourage attendees to bring journals & pens.
What They Will Learn
- The difference between mental honesty and embodied truth
- How to create a safe space for honesty using “Forward Positive Alchemy”
- A 4-part structure for voicing difficult or delicious truths with grace
- How to halt self-sabotaging emotional defense mechanisms when encountering resistance
- How to turn truth-telling into a cultivation ritual for deeper connection and life transformation
How They Will Benefit
Couples and constellations leave with a liberated nervous system, heightened desire, and a shared language that makes “hard conversations” feel like foreplay. Intimacy deepens as performance falls away and pure presence remains.
Compersion Alchemy: Turning Jealousy into Golden Joy
Description
A luminous, heart-centered exploration of compersion and the alchemical practice of transforming jealousy into expansive joy when our beloved(s) shine with others. Through gentle embodiment, guided ritual, and shared inquiry, we soften the edges of fear and open to the golden frequency of celebration that nourishes every thread in a polyamorous web or open-hearted monogamous bond.
Who Is It For
Emotionally literate couples, triads, or polyamorous constellations who already value growth and safety, and now wish to cultivate compersion as a devotional practice. Equally welcoming to those new to non-monogamy and seasoned travelers seeking deeper harmony.
Time, Space, Equipment
- Duration: 75 minutes
- Group Size: 10-50 participants optimal
- Space: Quiet, warmly lit room with circular seating on cushions or chairs
- Equipment: Sound System suitable to voice for the space, headset or lapel preferred; ability to play music from our phone/laptop setlist.
What They Will Learn
- The neurobiology and energetics of jealousy vs. compersion
- A somatic practice to alchemize contraction into positive intelligence in real time
- Ritual phrasing and embodiment exercises that turn “sting” into celebration
- Daily micro-practices to keep compersion alive between partners
Micro-Mance: Everyday Gestures, Eternal Intimacy
Description:
In the quiet spaces between grand gestures lie the true elixirs of lasting desire. This playful yet profound session invites us to craft and exchange tiny, intentional acts—lingering eye contact, a fingertip along the wrist, a whispered truth—that continuously renew erotic charge and emotional safety in long-term relating.
Who Is It For:
Couples and polyamorous partners who cherish their solid foundations and long to keep the flame bright without effortful performance; perfect for busy professionals and creatives who crave depth in the everyday.
Time, Space, Equipment:
- Duration: 60 minutes
- Space: Any conference room with movable chairs; soft warm lighting encouraged
- Equipment: Sound System suitable to voice for the space, headset or lapel preferred; ability to play music from our phone/laptop setlist. Pens and small notecards
- Encourage participants to bring journal/pen
Space, Equipment:
- Space: Private, forward row seating or circular
What They Will Learn:
- The neurology of micro-moments of connection
- How to read and speak each partner’s unique “gesture language”
- Five categories of micro-mance that reignite polarity in seconds
- A 7-day take-home ritual to embed the practice
How They Will Benefit:
Attendees depart with a pocketful of effortless devotion practices that keep desire humming through ordinary days—turning routine into quiet reverence and preventing the slow fade so many conscious couples fear.
Discover Presence in the Art of Pose
Description
Disciplined beauty is a pathway to presence, sexual tension, and connection. We gather to explore the ancient, exquisite practice of posed form: how a single held posture can quiet the mind, awaken the body, and create magnetic charge between lovers. Through beauty, breath, and disciplined stillness we touch the same current that lives in high-protocol dynamics, sacred temple ritual, Gorean aesthetics, and the refined eroticism of fornophilia. Thomas & Lia guide you from curious observer to embodied practitioner in one revelatory hour.
Who Is It For
Partners who crave deeper presence, polarity, and refined erotic tension. Welcoming to those new to formal pose, devotees of high-protocol beauty, and anyone drawn to the interplay of discipline and desire.
Time, Space, Equipment
- Duration: 60 minutes
- Group Size: 20–50 participants optimal
- Space: Softly lit studio with open floor, mirrors encouraged, cushions or yoga mats
- Equipment: Sound System suitable to voice for the space, (2) headset or lapel mics preferred; ability to play music from our phone/laptop setlist.
What They Will Learn
- How posture instantly shifts nervous system, emotion, and erotic charge
- The shared lineage of pose in sacred ritual, high-protocol service, Gorean grace, and forniphilic aesthetics
- Three foundational poses that speak volumes without words
- How to give and receive pose direction with clarity and devotion
How They Will Benefit
Attendees leave with a palpable felt-sense of how disciplined beauty creates safety, deepens presence, and silently amplifies desire. Couples return home with a new, wordless language of erotic tension they can weave into everyday life.
